Police Wife, Firefighter Wife, & Military Wife Blog

As a police wife of 12 years with a Masters and PhD in social work and expertise in trauma, I have written best-selling books and coached other first responder and military wives. I’d love to share the story of a Deputy K9 wife + toddler mom from my Resilient Ride Along group coaching program. She also read my heelsandholster: a police wife devotional book. She came to me wishing her husband had a different job, but, after just 5 short months, she felt so grateful for her husband and that they were “stronger than ever” even though he was working more overtime than ever.

Five months later, on a Resilient Ride Along group coaching call, she was all smiles about her husband. He interrupted our call to surprise her with flowers and chocolate for Valentine’s Day.

She had done my freebie 30 Day Gratitude Challenge. And, surprisingly, her police husband voluntarily did it too. After just a couple weeks of doing the challenge, her husband said to her, “I didn’t realize you loved me this much.” This has a positive compounding effect on her marriage.

My client also integrated self-care and asked for help in her daily routine making her feel supported and not like she was doing it all alone. These are three key changes to their mindset, daily routine, and communication made all the difference. This resulted in her feeling strength in their marriage even when he’s working more overtime than ever.

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