Individuals or Couples Coaching

I know what you’ve been living with up until now…

• You rarely get uninterrupted time together leaving you feeling distant from your partner. You’re passing by your partner when he gets home and you’re heading to work leaving you feeling like you can’t connect.

• You feel like you’re walking on eggshells when he’s home. He rarely shares his feelings with you leaving you feeling disconnected.

• Your partner is bad at communicating with you. This looks like you two having miscommunications, constant tension, and the same argument over and over.

• You no longer want to be a first responder or military partner or family. You talk about your anxiety about his job so much that everyone knows you’re not happy. You would love to support your partner, but you don’t think first responders or people in the military should be in serious relationships or married.

And I want you to know… it doesn’t have to stay this way.

Individual or Couples Coaching is a six-month group coaching program (3 month mini-version available) to master the mindset, daily routines, and communication skills that make a life-long first responder or military relationship feel strong, supported, and deeply connected.

This is where you go from:

🚫 Rarely having uninterrupted time together without the kids or without him getting called into work

🚫 Feeling disconnected and resentful when he’s gone

🚫 Having tension every time you talk about his job - When you say ‘You have to work again this weekend?!” He responds with “Yep.” and that’s all you get. 

🚫 Wondering if this lifestyle is even sustainable - it feels like he’s more committed to his job than you at this point. 

To:

• More time off than ever before together. He’s voluntarily turning down optional overtime to be with you and your family. You have regular dates together— some are simple like him initiating strolls over coffee around the neighborhood— other dates are spicy with yoga butt slaps leading into spicy dessert in the bedroom. You’re recharging together. He’s sharing his feelings, and you feel deeply connected to him on his days off.

• You’re having deep conversations together where your partner is sharing his feelings, because you know exactly what to say to have him opening up to you. You feel as connected as you did when you were young and kid free.

• Your partner’s reaching out more to you when he’s at work. You feel closer than ever to him even when he’s away.

• You look forward to your own routine when he’s away. You’re loving brunch and park play dates with friends and volunteering at church. When friends who don’t have strong, first responder/military relationships say, “you should see your partner more,” you brush it off confidently. Even when unexpected overtime comes up, you tell your partner, “Have a good day at work. Stay safe. I’ve got this,” because your routine runs smoothly no matter what shift he works.

• You know deep down that you hold a special role in society and you’ve built the mindset, routines, and communication to have a deep connection with your partner and truly enjoy each day. You have a fierce, bulletproof confidence in your relationship.

This is the reality I’ve created in my marriage.

This is the home I help my clients create every single day. 

The absolute best place for you to create this and quickly is inside my Individual or Couples Coaching. 

• Inside Individual or Couples Coaching, we refine:

• Your gratitude mindset so he’s telling you, “I didn’t realize how much you loved me,” and making you his first priority.

• Your daily routines so you never say, “I’m doing it all alone” again—your home runs smoothly no matter his shift or deployment.

• Your consistent quality time together so you recharge as a couple with deep talks, shared emotions, and intimate connection.

• Your communication skills so you know exactly what to say when a traumatic incident happens at work and he actually opens up to you.

• Your confidence so you brush off family or friends’ comments like, “Shouldn’t you see each other more?” knowing your bond is bulletproof.

You may need to realign your mindset, daily routine, and communication to accommodate your unique lifestyle, but by the time you’re done with their program, you will have an unshakeable confidence and pride in your unique role in society.

Here’s what you get inside:

✔️ Two individual coaching calls a month via Zoom

✔️ Two group coaching calls a month via Zoom (female partners only)

✔️ Private Q+A support between calls via Telegram group chat

✔️ Access to all my micro-offers (Shift Happens, Empowered Partner courses and more) during the program

Don’t miss my client transformation below.

When she first came to me, my client, a police and veteran wife of more than ten years, felt like her marriage was slipping away. The man who had once been affectionate and open was now retreating into his man cave on his days off leaving my client alone to care for her and their school-age girls. The weight of trauma had snowballed for him, and while she longed to be close, every attempt she made to talk about it only seemed to push him further. She told him she felt sad that he wasn’t as affectionate anymore, but he had no words to give back. She was left feeling shut out—physically and emotionally.

She wanted more closeness, but the harder she tried, the more disconnected she felt. Every conversation left her second-guessing herself, wondering if this distance was permanent. She was stuck between loving him deeply and resenting the loneliness of a marriage that no longer felt like a partnership.

Inside our one-on-one coaching, everything began to shift. She started with the 30-Day Gratitude Challenge, learning to see and acknowledge what he was already doing right. Almost immediately, her perspective shifted—and so did his. Within just days, he began stepping in more: helping with their girls, running errands without being asked, even vacuuming for her. The walls that had felt so high began to lower, not through pressure, but through a shift in how she noticed and communicated.

Then she learned how to use Gentle Observation and Assertive Trauma-Informed Communication—tools that allowed her to meet him where he was, as both a police officer and a veteran. Instead of pushing for answers he couldn’t give, she began talking to him in a way that made him feel safe to open back up. And slowly, the closeness she longed for returned.

Within a month, the affection she feared was gone forever was back in her marriage. One night, she told me with tears in her eyes, her husband let her snuggle him and he snuggled back—then, with a playful grin, smacked her butt. It was such a small thing, but for her, it was everything. It was proof that their connection was still there, waiting to be nurtured back to life.

This is what happens inside Individual Coaching. It’s not about forcing conversations or pretending everything is fine. It’s about learning the mindset, tools, and daily shifts that make it possible to feel close again—even after distance, trauma, and years of disconnection. It’s about moving from loneliness to laughter, from tension to tenderness, from wondering if you’ll ever get him back to knowing you have him right here, leaning into you again.

Just hear it from my client…

You won’t believe this client transformation