On the Same Team
A 10-Day Experience
10 Days
10 Audio Trainings all in Telegram App on your phone
After this program you and your partner will feel like you are On the Same Team again…
This looks like…
Your partner sharing about his shift/deployment and actively listening to you about your day
Making optional overtime decisions together
Enjoying your days when your partner’s off and on duty
That we’re in this together, and nothing can pull us apart vibe is what you need to harness.
You’re longing to feel close to your partner but right now, you’re…
feeling like you’re living separate lives due to opposite schedules which means you haven’t shared coffee together in three months
texting him repeatedly when he’s on shift/deployed trying to have serious conversations via text, because you don’t know the next time you’ll talk to him in the same place and time to have that conversation
tracking his location on his phone, he doesn’t even know it, and you wonder if he’s lying to you or cheating on you
you’re feeling insecure in your relationship and doubting, “will we ever be able to spend time together again”?
Not to mention, you’re pretty resentful and feeling like he’s always choosing the job over you.
I need you to know this is exactly why you’re feeling disconnected.
Over the 10 Days inside of On the Same Team, this is the thing that we’re going to change.
Inside On the Same Team, you’ll learn how to become an unshakable team—loyal, supportive, and deeply connected. You’ll become a first responder or military partner who:
Doesn’t get derailed by overtime or long shifts and there’s zero miscommunication about it. He literally sends you a text that’s like “mandatory overtime tonight.” You respond, “I totally get it. I’m going out with my girlfriends” or “I totally get it. I’m going to watch Love Island after the kids go to bed and have my girl time.”
Knows exactly how to respond when he walks in after an 18-hour shift and says one word to you and goes upstairs to shower. Now you’ve got the tools to hand this moment that will bring you closer and not push you apart.
Has built daily routines like exercise for you, planned consistent time to reconnect with your partner, and time with friends and doing things you love on days he’s on duty. This will prioritize your connection with yourself and each other even with the toughest changing schedule that exists.
You’ll get the tools, strategies, and mindset shifts to go from two ships passing in the night to being On the Same Team again.
Don’t miss client success stories below
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10 Audio Lessons
You won’t believe the transformations my clients have made in this program.
Client A. You’ve been told not to go to bed angry in marriage. If you’re a first responder or military couple, this isn’t advice you can follow given deployments and shift work. Here’s what you can do instead…
You’ve been told that serious conversations need to be dealt with as soon as issues arise in marriage. What happens when you won’t see your husband for the next 3 days? Here’s another option for you to try on…
When my client signed up for On the Same Team, she said that talking about serious topics with her police and veteran husband was tense. She wanted to be able to address co-parenting and financial concerns without yelling in front of the kids.
General marital advice wasn’t designed for your unique lifestyle. Don’t got to bed angry? That might mean you got to sleep at 3am once he gets off 2nd shift or texting him your anxious or angry thoughts while he’s on shift so can return to the patrol car or station to read it after a dead body or human trafficking victim call. He’s not biologically available to have that conversation leaving you feeling unheard or like he doesn’t care. We first responder/military couples need different advice…
My 4-step Assertive Trauma Informed Communication method requires patience and planning to approach serious conversations with your partner so that he is biologically available. This method avoids ambushing him at work or immediately after work when he’s hypervigilant or recovering.
While planning a time to have a conversation ahead of time is important, so are the words you use. Your partner has been trained to be direct. Women are often socialized to be passive, which leaves you feeling like you partner didn’t hear you or doesn’t care. Assertiveness you’ll learn in On the Same Team leaves you feeling heard and seeing the change you desire.
My client shifted her communication perspective and saw communication greatly improve in just 10 days.
You can have this too.
Client B. Waking up carrying your baby in your arms to a note from your husband thanking you for all you do… making you want to make another baby with him. Here’s how my client got here and you can too.
You’re not alone. This first responder lifestyle you live is unique, but I’ve supported hundreds of police, fire, and veterans wives from across the globe (literally all the way across the ocean in Australia) and guess what? Your thoughts, such as “He’s never home. I’m doing this all by myself. I feel like a single mom.” aren’t just yours. Your feelings are valid.
But, these thoughts and continuing to live your life so you feel alone aren’t going to get you a strong marriage for a lifetime. Here’s what will…
When my client signed up for On the Same Team, she said not only did she feel lonely and resentful towards her husband, she felt guilty and like she was the only one who felt that way. Once she learned how to adapt her mindset, daily routine, and communication in On the Same Team, she saw her husband giving her love in the form of the sweetest thank you note.
You can have this too.
Client C. My client was told that happy marriages looked like family dinners each night + weekends and holidays spent together. What happens when you have dinner alone with your kids most nights because your husband works nights?
When my client signed up for On the Same Team, she wanted to no longer wish she wasn’t a police and veteran wife anymore. She asked me how to grieve nightly family dinners, weekends, and holidays together.
If you didn’t grow up in a first responder/military family, your vision of a happily married couple and family are family dinners surrounding the table chatting about one another’s days… it’s waking up Christmas morning to your spouse an kids… a kiss with your spouse on NYE at midnight.
As a first responder/military couple, your vision of happiness have to be redefined. In a way, what you thought your life should look like may need to be grieved and gently redefined. The craziest part of the redefined vision of happiness is that it makes you truly enjoy the quality time you have together like one else truly gets.
Stop “shoulding” on your relationship. In On the Same Team, my client let herself feel her grief and began to allow herself to have a new vision of her relationship.
Should you have consistent quality time together? Yes, but it doesn’t have to be daily in person.
When you stop obsessing over nightly family dinners, you open up the joy of Thursday family beach days when no one else it there.
My client shifted her mindset in just 10 days and has hope in her police and veteran marriage.
You can have this too.